For a given random variable $X$, with associated sample space $S$, expected value $\mu$, and probability mass function $P(x)$, we define the standard deviation of $X$, denoted $SD(X)$ or $\sigma$, with the following: $$SD(X) = \sqrt{\sum_{x \in S} (x-\mu)^2 \cdot P(x)}$$
The sum underneath the square root above will prove useful enough in the future to deserve its own name. As such, we define the variance of $X$, denoted $Var(X)$ or $\sigma^2$, by $$Var(X) = \sum_{x \in S} (x-\mu)^2 \cdot P(x)$$ Beyond being the square of the standard deviation, note that the variance can also be interpreted as the expected value of $(X - \mu)^2$. That is to say, the variance is the average squared distance between the outcomes $x$ and $\mu$, the "center" of the distribution for $X$:
$$Var(X) = E\,[(X-\mu)^2]$$ Upon recognizing this fact, and applying some of the properties of expected value, we can find an equivalent expression for the variance that is generally easier to calculate: $$\begin{array}{rcl} Var(X) &=& E\,[(X-\mu)^2]\\\\ &=& E\,(X^2 - 2X\mu + \mu^2)\\\\ &=& E\,(X^2) - 2\mu E\,(X) + E\,(\mu^2)\\\\ &=& E\,(X^2) - 2\mu^2 + \mu^2\\\\ &=& E\,(X^2) - \mu^2 \end{array}$$Now, if one knows the probability mass function for $X$ as a table, and the sample space associated with $X$ is $S$, the expression above can be calculated as
$$\displaystyle{Var(X) = \sum_{x \in S} [x^2P(x)] - \mu^2}$$Recall that the standard deviation is the square root of the variance, so the above gives us a more convenient way to calculate the standard deviation as well: $$SD(X) = \sqrt{\sum [x^2P(x)] - \mu^2}$$
Suppose one wishes to find the standard deviation of a random variable $X$ with probability mass function given by the following table:
$$\begin{array}{l|c|c|c|c} X & -4 & 2 & 5 & 10\\\hline P(X) & 0.50 & 0.30 & 0.15 & 0.05 \end{array}$$To do this, one finds the expected value, variance, and finally the standard deviation for $X$, each in turn: $$\begin{array}{rcl} E(X) &=& (-4)(0.50)+(2)(0.30)+(5)(0.15)+(10)(0.05)\\ &=& -0.15\\ &&\\ Var(X) &=& \left[(-4)^2(0.50)+(2)^2(0.30)+(5)^2(0.15)+(10)^2(0.05)\right] - (-0.15)^2\\ &\doteq& 17.9275\\ &&\\ SD(X) &\doteq& \sqrt{17.9275}\\ &\doteq& 4.234088 \end{array}$$ One should be careful to not forget to subtract $\mu^2 = (E(X))^2$ at the end of the calculation of $Var(X)$ -- this is a common mistake among students first learning this calculation.
Just as there was a simple way to find the expected value of the sum or difference of two discrete random variables (i.e., $E(X \pm Y) = E(X) \pm E(Y)$). one can find a similar (but slightly different) way to find the variance of a sum or difference of two discrete random variables.
Specifically,
Note the differences between this and the related property regarding the expected value. First, we require that $X$ and $Y$ are independent. Second, the expression on the right is always a sum of two variances, even when finding the variance of a difference of two random variables.
To see why this property holds, again suppose both $X$ and $Y$ are discrete random variables with outcome spaces $S_x = \{x_1, x_2, \ldots\}$, and $S_y = \{y_1, y_2, \ldots\}$, respectively, and then consider the following: $$\begin{array}{rcl} Var(X \pm Y) &=& E[(X \pm Y)^2] - (\mu_{X \pm Y})^2\\\\ &=& E[(X \pm Y)^2] - (\mu_X \pm \mu_Y)^2\\\\ &=& E[X^2 \pm 2XY + Y^2] - (\mu_{X}^2 \pm 2\mu_{X}\mu_{Y} + \mu_{Y}^2)\\\\ &=& E(X^2) \pm 2E(XY) + E(Y^2) - \mu_{X}^2 \mp 2\mu_{X}\mu_{Y} - \mu_{Y}^2\\\\ &=& [E(X^2) - \mu_{X}^2] \pm 2[E(XY) - \mu_{X}\mu_{Y}] + [E(Y^2) - \mu_{Y}^2]\\\\ &=& Var(X) \pm 2[E(XY) - \mu_{X}\mu_{Y}] + Var(Y) \end{array}$$ However, note that $$\begin{array}{rcl} E(XY) &=& \displaystyle{\sum_{x \in S_x, \, y \in S_y} x y \cdot P(X = x \textrm{ and } Y = y)}\\\\ &=& \displaystyle{\sum_{x \in S_x, \, y \in S_y} x y \cdot P(x)P(y) \quad \quad \textrm{(as $X$ and $Y$ are independent)}}\\\\ &=& \displaystyle{\sum_{x \in S_x, \, y \in S_y} xP(x) \cdot yP(y)}\\\\ &=& \displaystyle{\left( \sum_{x \in S_x} xP(x) \right) \left( \sum_{y \in S_y} yP(y) \right)}\\\\ &=& \displaystyle{\mu_{X}\mu_{Y}} \end{array}$$ Thus, the middle term in the expression for $Var(X \pm Y)$ above (i.e., $2[E(XY) - \mu_X \mu_Y]$) is zero, and $$Var(X \pm Y) = Var(X) + Var(Y)$$
Using the properties of expected value, we can also show the following:
To see this, consider the following:
$$\begin{array}{rcl} Var(cX) &=& E[(cX)^2] - \mu_{cX}^2\\\\ &=& E(c^2 X^2) - (c\mu_{X})^2\\\\ &=& c^2 E(X^2) - c^2 (\mu_{X})^2\\\\ &=& c^2 [E(X^2) - \mu_{X}^2]\\\\ &=& c^2 Var(X) \end{array}$$